Only when we are willing to face up to feeling, can anyone else help us in a sustainable way.
If we are not willing, all other attempts to “help” can only mask the underlying cause, suppress and rearrange its expression, and nothing significant will have been made conscious.
As Carl Jung said: “there is no transformation without emotion” and “there is no coming to consciousness without pain.”
Ultimately, all the pain we fear can be experienced as a physical sensation in the body. The rest is an idea produced by the Ego in an attempt to control it.
By facing up to feeling and experiencing it with bare attention, we can see it for what it is and let it go. Then it no longer has an unconscious influence over our mind, our behaviour and our life.
Facing up to feeling is also a compassionate act. One that prevents us from unconsciously using other people to regulate our feelings in future.
